I didn’t always think this way. For a long time I thought things happened to me. I was never good enough and bad things seemed to follow me. I lived for years like this on a rickety, old, wooden roller-coaster. You know, the kind where your head keeps hitting the side of the “safety” bars every time you make a turn.
I don’t know when I woke up from this state of victimhood, all I know is one day things looked a little better. I started seeing things a little differently. It wasn’t that bad things stopped happening. It was my response to those bad things that changed.
I started to realize everyone has gone/ is going/ will go through something terrible. I found that to be comforting in a way. It released me from the thought “Why does this always happen to ME?” Because it doesn't. It happens to everyone.
Yes, someone else’s problems or things might be more or less terrible than yours, but this isn’t a competition. Your life, your experiences, your perspective is all you know. Your problems are your problems if you think they are. It’s all relative.
So, if you are reading this then more than likely you have your basic needs met. Food, water, shelter, some feeling of safety. Everything else is a mental battle, isn’t it?
If you can figure out how to change your reaction to things then maybe you will find more peace in your life.
If you can figure out that you might not have control of every situation but you do have some control of your emotions then maybe you will be happier.
If you can figure out how to focus on the good instead of the bad maybe you will breathe a little easier.
For some of you reading this you are thinking, well duh. For others this is really hard. It takes a lot of effort and energy. Some of us feel like we are in a really deep hole and we haven't looked up yet. We are so deep we haven’t even figured out we are in a hole with a way out. But there is.
I'm Jackie, an artist, illustrator, and friend to ghosts, monsters, and aliens. This blog is full of DIY projects, stories, and things I think are cool. Stay weird.