When I first moved to Nashville in 2009 I worked at one of the downtown honky tonk bars. After the night shift we did what all food industry people did, we went out for drinks. We were like a big, happy, slightly buzzed family.
I worked with this guy who’s dream was to play in a band in Nashville. He had made up his mind about what he wanted to do. Although he knew how to play guitar, he still had a lot of work to do to be able to play downtown every night. When we all went for drinks after a shift he always said he had to go home.
At the time I remember thinking what is wrong with this guy? I thought his time alone was spent being boring. But I was wrong. Every night he kept practicing, working and networking. After a year and a half of honky tonk madness I quit the bar scene and changed careers.
About two years ago some friends from Ohio came down to visit and we all went downtown to the honky tonks. I basically dread going down there after working there for so long, but I wanted to show my out of town friends what it was like.
When we got to the bar guess who was playing, yep that guy. He had worked really hard and probably sacrificed a lot and was actually doing what many people would kill to do. I’m not a fan of country honky tonk music but I had to give the guy some mad props. He had set a goal, worked really hard at it, and had achieved what he first set out to do.
I find myself in this same situation now. A lot of times I am asked to make plans and while I feel bad turning people down, I know that if I go out every night I’m going to get absolutely no artwork done. I’m not saying to become a hermit and become so obsessed with your goals that you become a crazy person; I’m just saying maybe it’s ok to say no sometimes.
This mindset is not just for musicians and artists. It’s for anyone trying to achieve something. Sometimes you have to make certain choices now so you can do/get/be what you really want. While you ponder this thought check out the song by Tame Impala, Solitude is Bliss.
I'm Jackie, an artist, illustrator, and friend to ghosts, monsters, and aliens. This blog is full of DIY projects, stories, and things I think are cool. Stay weird.